Dear Ronnie The Dating Coach, I am a 58 year old widow whose husband died 4-1/2 years ago.
I feel that I am finally through the tunnel of grief and am ready to date and find a relationship with a man…only to discover there are no men.
They have ED or they are not interested in a widow for some reason.
Divorcee’s seem to be able to get back into the dating scene much more easily and faster than do widows.
You can prepare a lovely Italian meal for a guy, and all of a sudden he brings up the fact his ex made the best lasagna of all time." GF #2: "Men in their fifties can be cynical, especially if they were in a bad marriage.
They talk about how awful their ex-wives are, and how much money they had to give them." GF #3: "Getting involved with a guy who's still reeling from his divorce can sometimes feel like he's having an affair, except that the 'other woman' isn't a woman, it's his anger." My Advice: Dump the baggage, dude.
Despite the occasional dating disasters and mating missteps, there's a lot to love about you guys.
Even if you're fresh out of a miserable marriage and new to the singles scene, take a breath.Plus, your experience and maturity give you more depth and better perspective in life. We're rooting for you men, so go get 'em (just don't go too fast)..action_button.action_button:active.action_button:hover.action_button:focus.action_button:hover.action_button:focus .count.action_button:hover .count.action_button:focus .count:before.action_button:hover .count:before.u-margin-left--sm.u-flex.u-flex-auto.u-flex-none.bullet. I've gathered input from three of my most trusted single girlfriends whose ages range from early 40s to late-50s. We love you guys and want the best for you, so here goes.TOO FAST Maybe you're divorced, newly separated, or have been single forever.You can be romantic and take the lead, but exercise patience.Guys that are too fast getting in are probably going to be too fast getting out.Maybe you're lonely, horny, you want a girlfriend, need some company, or just need to get laid. We ALL want love, but some guys blow it by rushing.GF #1: "There seems to be some kind of 'trying on of a girlfriend.' On the first date, I've had a guy take my hand and rub my shoulders, without any words of seduction or romance.Stop talking about your ex, your kids, your money, etc. Some therapy, meditation, or a little alone time wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you.The point is, hold back from dating until you're healed. GF #1: "Nothing is a bigger turn-on to a woman in her 50s than a man that makes her feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to him." GF #2: "Be honest with her and don't lead her on.