We’ve put together 5 essential questions to ask yourself, to find out if you really should be dating someone who’s seeing other people. Do you focus on each prospect before deciding they’re not right, or do you always have one eye on the rest of the field?
Maybe you’re actively dating other people, and if this is the case then as long as you’re all honest with each other, then there should be no real issues.
But, if you find yourself hoping that he or she stops seeing other people so that you can introduce them as your ‘partner’ at work parties, then you need a wake-up call.
Talk to your date openly and honestly, to find out if they intend to keep the status quo or are happy to commit to you.
Some people want to meet lots of people to ensure they always have a date on a Friday night.
Others are looking for something more serious – maybe even marriage.
In the early stages of meeting someone, it’s perfectly acceptable – some might even say smart – to continue seeing other people, as long as you’re honest. Assuming your match has been honest with you from the start then they having nothing to answer for.
Sure, they didn’t have to tell you, but honesty is the best policy in these situations.I'd check the box for "rarely" on the former, while checking a solid "always" on the latter.First kisses are manageable: I'm down with this on a first date.Are you in it just for fun, or are you starting to think seriously about the other person?If you’re happy to just have fun nights out chatting over dinner or dancing until the small hours after one too cocktails, then fine, just keep doing your thing.But if you’ve been dating for more than a couple of months and you know your partner is still seeing other people then it’s time to lay your cards on the table.There comes a point in every relationship where exclusivity needs to be talked about, and if your date still feels the need to see other people down the line, then they’re clearly not feeling what they should be.(Spoiler alert: They all do.)Can I get an "archaaaaic AF"? If you are dating someone who is in it to win it (have sex) and that's it, they will wait the smushing out until to the third date, or fifth date, or eleventh date, and disappear no matter what if that was their plan. Your date might catch feels while waiting out your eleventh date rule, but that feels a little bit like you are trying to mouse trap your partner. A person who wants to get to know you beyond the sex won't care if you both fall into bed together on a second date rather than holding out for a third date. If a person is turned off by how soon you have sex with them, they're probably not going to be amazing when you poop the table during the birth of your first child.(Sorry, just being real here.)Do whatever you feel like on the third date.If you’re on the more serious end of the scale, then you should consider having the ‘exclusive’ conversation sooner rather than later.Mr or Ms ‘Fun on Friday night’ can afford to just wait around and hope for the best, but maybe you can’t.