I was growing up at a rapid rate as parenting had forced me to do and she was growing at an alarming rate too because that’s what babies do. Continue reading for 10 of the things I learned or wish I learned while test-driving with a child. Just because you have children doesn’t mean you have to settle or accept whatever is being thrown at you.I learned this when I made the decision to move on from my first marriage; I decided I wanted more for my child and more for myself. The right person will know a good package deal when they see one. You deserve love and respect and so do your children.Oftentimes when you first date someone they show you their best self and as they get more and more comfortable you get to see another side of them that they may not have shown you before.You want someone to love you for who you really are and not for the person they think you are.
While it was nice if they were easy on the eyes, I was more concerned about what they had to offer my child and me, and if we could make it past the test-driving phase. My husband and I test-drove for months before officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend.Someone that was taking some of mommy’s time and attention but also giving her some extra love and attention too.Be honest about your expectations and what you are looking for.It will save you and your children heartbreak down the road. Handsome your children are your priority and the person you are dating needs to understand that.When we were dating we often went on late dinner dates so I could read bedtime stories and put my daughter to bed.I was going through a divorce, attending school full-time, working and taking care of a baby who I supported on my own.I was honest with Chris from day one about my situation and the challenges I was dealing with concerning my ex.If someone is going to meet your most precious commodity then they need to be deserving of such.So many people thought I had it together, when inside I sometimes felt like my world was falling apart.My husband and I are both firm believers that you must be yourself.One of the reasons he is such a proponent of test-driving for awhile before getting serious is because it allows you to see what a person is really like.