I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.
I’m not judging – I can see how easy it is to get into that situation.
of 3,058 individuals in February, the most common timetable for having the "exclusive" talk in a relationship was less than four weeks. If four weeks sounds surprisingly short, it actually isn't. It's that the dating game has changed — maybe for the better.
less than a month before becoming exclusive, while 28% of respondents said it took them just one to two months.
It's the perfect terrain between something casual and something incredibly serious — but it's past the point where you're just leading someone on.
After six dates, spending time with that person becomes a considerable investment.
They’ll end up with women much more nurturing and patient than I, who realised that all they needed was a bit of time and gentle guidance.
Maybe I’m being old fashioned and just plain unrealistic to think that I should wait for someone who’s actually interested enough to want to chase me, who knows for certain from the out that they want a relationship with me – and who doesn’t need talking into the bloody thing.
That means after six short dates, 20-somethings are bound to have kissed, had sex multiple times and spent cumulatively an entire day with the person they're just beginning to date.
Think of how many of the Six dates might not seem like enough to build intimacy, much less prompt an exclusivity conversation.
But depending how physical those dates get, they can.
That’s like being awarded a relationship through squatter’s rights.
And if you land a boyfriend that way and then ‘win’ (and by ‘win,’ I mean you get the ultimate prize – marriage) then can you ever really relax, knowing they were so blasé about you when you first met that it took them six months, nine months, a year to refer to you as their girlfriend?