If you ignore the first suggestion, at least understand that the desire for a woman to be loyal to you is an expectation.
And if you have expectations of a woman, she’s going to have expectations of you and you have to be willing to honor her expectations in return. Which means you actually have to get to know her outside of a bed and outside of just the two of you going out together in your world.
When a man says he’s looking for a woman who has his back, he’s expressing the desire to be supported unconditionally, to know that a woman sees his potential, even if he’s not fully living up to it in the moment.
He has a desire to know that his partner is willing to sacrifice for him and wants a woman who will enhance his life, for the better.
As a single woman in her thirties, the dynamics of dating in the new urban scene are confusing.
By mid to late thirties, most of us who date and live in diverse urban cities are pretty self-aware and financially independent.
You can’t expect unconditional love from a woman without practicing it yourself.
We all at some point in our lives have read magazines, seen movies, or even read specific books written about the game of seduction.
He wants loyalty in a woman, but is disappointed to find “these hoes ain’t loyal.” His frustration sets the stage for a much deeper conversation about By definition, loyalty is “to be faithful or devoted to someone or something.” Casual dating, then, can’t possibly provide a healthy framework for a woman to be loyal to a man, or vice versa.Loyalty implies that some commitment to being faithful or devoted has been established.Loyalty has different implications in our new urban context.You have to enter into functions in other relationships and settings.If you want her loyalty someday at least commit to making your presence in her life known sometimes. And if you’re in your thirties, single and dating in urban culture, chances are you’re looking for somebody who can show you they’re down for you no matter what.There’s a scarcity, always the threat of insecurity.Loyalty isn’t just about being devoted to someone; it’s about somebody being you when everybody and everything is seemingly against you.The new urban man wants loyalty and trust, the way the new urban woman wants love and affection.We withhold from one another the very things we desire the most.Some people have actually gone to great lengths in order to use such knowledge to manipulate people into romance or sex.Men and women alike are both guilty of this, whether they are educated on the fundamentals of courtship or not.