I’ve come to believe that having a drink with your former high school teacher is – more often than not – a bit of a trap.My students initially fantasized about consuming alcohol with me because they wanted to be treated like adults when they were only teenagers.Again, there is much merriment at the beginning as we order and consume our first sips of alcohol, but then it begins to feel as though we are both fish flopping around on hot concrete and the inevitable silence becomes too crushing to stomach. I truly care about these former students; they initiate this drinking ritual.And yet, there is almost always something off about our interactions.A former student struts triumphantly over to me, all but screaming out the fact that he or she has finally reached the legal drinking age. Sometimes former students contact me, specifically to schedule the promised drink.
According to ABC, she expressed relief at Hooker's arrest on Friday.by Matthew Quick When I was a young high school teacher, many of my students asked if we could perhaps have a beer together when they turned twenty-one, the legal drinking age here in The States. Three or four years into my teaching stint, I started bumping into former students at bars in and around Philadelphia. They try to use my first name, but can’t ever really pull it off. I ask about their lives and they give me carefully edited updates that feel like answers to test questions.I always said, “Sure,” thinking they’d graduate and forget all about me. It usually played out like this: a drink arrives unordered and the server points out a familiar face at the other end of the room. And then silence finally conquers all, at which point we hug awkwardly and part ways.The teenage girlfriend of a former teacher who abandoned his family to move in with her has ended their controversial relationship amid claims he sexually abused a different student more than a decade ago.Hooker had moved in with the teen in February - the same day he quit his job in the school's business department.Jordan Powers, 18, said Saturday on "Good Morning America" that she broke up with James Hooker, 41, after he was arrested this week for allegedly sexually assaulting another teen girl 14 years ago. I gave up all my friends at high school because they didn't agree with me." FORMER TEACHER WHO LEFT FAMILY FOR 18-YEAR-OLD STUDENT IS CHARGED WITH POSSIBLE ABUSE OF ANOTHER GIRL."He called me from jail, and yes, I told him we're done," she said. Powers and Hooker made national news earlier this year when they appeared on Dr.Nate Vernon, more than twenty years after they have last spoken. Portia Kane has escaped her cheating husband only to find herself back at square one, living with her mum in a place she thought she'd left behind forever.Portia uses the untested optimism of Nate Vernon’s youth against an older more pessimistic Vernon, asking him to perform a seemingly impossible magic trick. Lost and alone, looking to find the goodness she believes still exists in the world, Portia sets off to save herself by saving someone else - a beloved high school English teacher who has retired after a traumatic incident.It is also true that most romantic relationships come with a certain amount of push back, and some kinds of romantic relationships still get a lot of push back for things that many/most of us feel strongly are absolutely unproblematic: e.g.inter-racial relationships, same sex relationships. (In fact, I am very sorry to say that if your relationship is not inter-racial or same sex, any push back you get will probably be mild compared to that, and if it is, that will increase the push back considerably.) I recommend weighing the possible costs of such a relationship against the possible benefits.