It wasn't too long before we got there and were soon soaking off by ourselves.There were about 20 people there that night and some were nude and some wore suits.You shouldn't be Pollyanna, but being positive about yourself and others is an incredibly attractive quality -- ultimately much more important than your looks or what digit your age starts with. And don't kid yourself that all those married couples on Facebook are living in blissful unions.You may not have a date for Saturday night, but then you also don't have to deal with someone else's money problems, health problems, or failure-to-launch kid problems. Nurture yourself in your alone time: start that yoga practice, take a cooking class, write a blog. My wife Jen was out with her friend Dee a few weeks ago and Dee suggested they try out a clothing optional hot springs here in Colorado.I noticed Jen was trying to discreetly check out some of the guys without suits.
I wasn't gone long before I saw a guy slowly wade over to her and start chatting with her.Not only are you likely to scare people off, but you also run the risk of alienating people with your high maintenance-ness. Think of lingerie as self-care, a way of honoring yourself as a woman. For me that meant boot-cut jeans, a black sleeveless top, and black high-heeled sandals. If your date has a problem with any of this, he's not the one for you. Casual dating is not an appropriate scenario in which to talk about your antagonistic ex, your childhood wounds, or your son's pot problem.What you want is to create an experience of a relationship with you that will attract the kind of man you want to be with. A first date is probably not the time to don an entirely new style; you want to relax knowing you look terrific instead of second-guessing your ensemble. Everyone at this age has less than supple skin and midlife baggage. If the date turns into a relationship, all of this is fodder for discussion and will come up naturally.She did mention that some of the guys were nude but for the most part, the guys covered themselves with their towels. When I got home a few days later, she asked me if I would like to try it with her again sometime.I readily agreed and suggested we go in the evening when the heat wasn't so bad. Meanwhile, I researched the hot springs and found a few posts from adult sites that recommended it, and although not a place to play, it was a potential place to meet people.I told her I was going to go check out the rest of the place and cool off for a while and would be back in a while.What I really wanted to do was watch her from a distance.She said when she and Dee went it helped to gather the courage to go through with it.It was definitely off the beaten path and fairly isolated, which I liked.I called Jen later the night they went to the springs and was happy to hear they had a great time.There were only a handful of people there and they wore their suits. They also went in the heat of the day so I am sure that had something to do with it as well.