Finally, most of us are not as careful when we meet someone online as we would be if we had met them in a coffee shop.
We share more details about ourselves, more quickly.
It can feel a lot more natural to ask and answer questions over a cup of coffee than via email.
You also have more opportunities to see whether someone’s words match their actions.
If you’ve just met someone online that you’re interested in, the fact that they have a terrible or broken relationship with family members shouldn’t be an automatic deal breaker.
(You knew there was going to be a “however” didn’t you.) If you date or marry this person, issues associated with their family of origin will rear their heads in your own relationships.
This dynamic can happen during the early stages of any romantic relationship, but when you meet online you have to navigate additional pitfalls, as well.
Finally, you really need to ask good questions and listen carefully to the answers. But when it comes to building good relationships there are a handful of core skills that really help–things like asking good questions, listening carefully, and learning how to manage differences and disagreements constructively instead of destructively.
But don’t stop at just asking them what they do and then make assumptions what they think and feel about what they do. Ask them what they love about what do, and what they find a drag about their studies or their job.
Ask them where they see themselves in the future, or what their other hopes, dreams, and plans are.
Literally millions of people (including me) who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to examine these relationships. One independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.
If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.