Navigating the first phone call is one of the most nerve-wracking but potentially rewarding experiences you can have as you embark upon the dating journey. Also, avoid any graphic conversation — it’s not cool. I understand that it’s important to play up your strong points, but it’s also important to be an authentic match for the person that you are about to communicate with. You want to take as much pressure off of them as possible. Instead of saying, “Hey, do you want to go out this Saturday for coffee?
Here are a few guidelines and pointers as you pick up the telephone: 1. ” You might want to say, “I was going to go out hiking/biking (something public) on Saturday. It’ll be a LOT of fun.” This idea works well, because you’re not really asking them out, you’re proposing an idea that sounds like a lot of fun and without so much pressure. These are my tips to help you navigate the first phone.
You want to avoid asking him if he’s open to having a relationship with you (he isn’t thinking that yet), or trying to get him to approve of the way you look or the type of woman that you are.
One of the most common and unattractive things that men experience over and over online and in their dating life are women who are constantly seeking approval or jumping into “relationship mode” too quickly.
Get Clear On What Online Dating Is For First of all, I want to make a distinction about what I believe online dating is.
Online dating is a great way to get introduced and to qualify men who share your interests and values, for the purpose of seeing if there is spark enough there to meet in person.
It’s better to be prepared for all of the potential possibilities, so that you’ll be able to move on to the next step with your match.If you want to be uniquely attractive, it’s important to avoid doing this.For more tips on dating men and relationships, feel free to check out my website along with my free newsletter where I’ll email my best tips and insights on men and dating, all from a man’s perspective.A few e-mails, phone calls, and text messages are a kind of virtual “flirting.” There is no real relationship yet in the man’s mind.Therefore, if you’ve been talking to a man online for a little while (weeks or months) and he suddenly stops writing or takes longer to write you back, don’t take it too personally. There is no rhyme or reason for why a man will do this, and trying to figure it out will not only drive you crazy, but you’ll inadvertently give off a “vibe” that won’t help you.So here are some guidelines so you will avoid the mistake of scaring a man off by being too needy and clingy.When you're first getting to know a man, before you have established clearly (via a face-to-face conversation) that you are a couple, will not date anyone else and will not have sex with anyone else, your job is to receive and his is to give.Women, on the other hand, tend to try to turn it into a relationship, sometimes-with online dating-even before you've met.You can't be objective when you're hoping, WAY TOO SOON, that it will become a relationship.This can and will save you time, energy and confusion. The Danger of the “Instant Connection” When you start talking to a man online, it’s easy to get addicted to the feeling of emotional connection when you “click” with him and you’re both sharing personal, intimate things about yourselves with each other.For some women, talking to a man online can be the only recent experience of dating someone their own age and feeling comfortable with it. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that your ability to share and connect will translate well when you meet in person.