He is also a culture vulture who adores the theatre, opera and ballet, if only he could afford it, he adds rather pointedly.
At this point, I wonder whether he thinks he's entering Miss World or trying to seduce a mature cash cow.
Alex arrives ten minutes early at the Italian restaurant I've chosen, bringing with him a rather wilted rose.
Ricardo is one of scores of young men who contacted me when I joined a website which caters for wealthy men and women looking to flash their cash in mutually beneficial arrangements with younger members of the opposite sex, otherwise known as 'sugar babies'.
Rewind five years and the concept of ‘ghosting’ might have conjured up images of chucking a sheet over your head and trying to scare the living daylights out of your siblings/flatmates/neighbours (and - let’s be honest - probably failing). I don't understand the outrage people have about it.
But now, in this peculiar year of 2017 in this strange world we live in, ghosting is a brutal dating move. Few singletons can honestly say they’ve never ghosted anyone on their dating app of choice, but surely that’s not acceptable after meeting up in person? James: I'm admitting it because I'm an unrepentant ghoster. James: When you're not invested in someone - you haven't met them, you don't know their surname, you don't know their hopes and dreams - then it's far easier to hit the block button than to decide to explain to them why you don't want to talk to them, surely? Most people have tons of plates spinning at once on there, and if someone suddenly disappears from the list of Tinder matches then is that really so brutal? Often I'm talking to a lot of guys at once on dating apps so if one of them stops replying, I usually don't notice. Recently a guy I went on one date with seemed to be ghosting me afterwards, so five days later I sent him another message - he duly replied but used that same line on me. Rachel: Have you seriously never been disappointed at a woman not replying to you? James: Yes it's sad, especially if you liked that person.
But dating apps are one thing - would you ghost someone after you'd met up in person and gone on an actual date? James: I see, so you're saying that if you approach it from a basic manners point of view then that it's best to be upfront, even if it's easier for one person if they just ghost? Sometimes you both know the relationship isn't going anywhere after that date and that's fine - things may just fizzle out.
But if they're still asking questions and expressing interest, simply not replying is pretty low, don't you think? Rachel: One day you may feel smitten with someone after the most magical first date of all time, and how crushed would you feel if she just stopped replying to your messages a day or two later?