The stories of Greek heroes’ infidelity and hanky panky are the stuff of legend. Jason, married to Medea and whose charms without which he could not have survived, still betrayed her by marrying an Athenian princess, quite younger.
He knew full well that he was going against his vow that he would never cheat on her.
“ti tha pei,” the middle-aged ladies of the Philoptochos will chit chat, “tha parei xeno? It is considered a desperate measure, a settling for seconds should a girl marry a xeno someone outside the Greek golden race. But I believe that if the saying “a good man is hard to find” is true than the chances of finding a good Greek man are even slimmer.
What the poet Rilke said is true not just for Greek but all relationships, ” in relationships it is men who do not know how to love.” Perhaps the answer then is to re educate Greek men and women in a new paradigm of sex relations that translates into genuinely equal, mutually respectful and satisfying marriages and families. Not chopping up Jason’s children in a fit of revenge for his infidelity nor divorcing Odysseus after all the years you invested in your relationship.
But the stuff of myth and legend is not far from the flesh and blood truth.
Let’s face it — Greek “boys” are spoiled, arrogant, and flagrantly unfaithful.
And I got tired waiting such a long time for a balanced, egalitarian marriage partner who I also had chemistry for to come around.
I have tried to replicate I them what I have hoped to accomplish in myself as a hyphenated American.
I never wanted to “greekness” to fade away into a barf shade of grey.
While everyone assumes that Greek men will cheat, that is not the case for Greek women.
As a wife, she is supposed to be the Penelope and remain virtuous, even when her husband is a two or 22 – timer.