Simply let your guy know that you're very interested in getting together..you're not at tango class, working on your screenplay or dining with friends."Show him that he won't dictate the terms of your relationship and that your life is not on hold for him," says Argov."Men often fear losing their independence, but when a woman hints that she doesn't need a guy, suddenly his fears of being smothered vanish and he's begging to be penned into your day planner." And, says Kreidman, "too many women brush off their friends and hobbies for a man.Playing this game gives her a better grip on balancing her life."The game plan: Plain and simple — tickle his jealousy bone.
So when you throw in an alluring reward — that would be you — well, stand back.
"Initially, I was digging him, but he would spend more time people watching than he would focusing on me.
So the next weekend, I told him I couldn't make it." Dom's reaction?
"You think you're bonding, but he thinks you're an open book to everyone." What you censor — about your exes, family, friends, even your schedule — can be more powerful than what you reveal.
So talk about your job and interests but stay mum about the juicier details.