I ended up back at bachelorhood after a long and expensive trek through computer-aided love services; I decided to look for love on the Internet mainly to test the hypothesis behind a blistering 50-page critique of hyped up promise of dating websites.
And that’s not science.” In other words, e Harmony works because their members are yuppies, not because they’ve found the secret formula to matchmaking It’s All A Numbers Game The lesson from my experience is that dating is entirely a numbers game, and the search method is largely irrelevant.The daters are of all ages, backgrounds and from across the U. The audience comes along for the ride in a refreshingly authentic viewing experience that plays like a real-life romantic comedy.At the end of each episode, we find out if the participants want to see each other again for a second date or if they head back to love's drawing board.Per the researchers,”people’s idiosyncratic self-reported preferences for certain characteristics in hypothetical romantic partners appear to be irrelevant to their romantic outcomes with specific potential partners they have actually met in person.” Another study found that College students who attended a speed dating event 10 days after evaluating potential study buddies online ended up being physically attracted, but not romantically, to the people they met in person who had their ideal traits.Indeed, middle-aged couples who have strong preferences for particular traits were just as head-over-heels with their long-term partner whether they possessed those characteristics.It’s a funny assumption, because even the bleeding edge of social science, which arguably has access to a lot more accurate data than e Harmony, is really quite bad at predicting human behavior.The normally poor state of social forecasting is compounded by the fact that individuals, in general, are terrible at knowing what they want in a significant other.Perhaps the greatest treatise why matching people on similarity doesn’t necessarily work out was put forth by the great 1980’s social philosopher, Paula Abdul, in her critically acclaimed “Opposites Attract” Online Dating Does Not Lead To Better Outcomes My experiment through the online dating minefield began as a fight with e Harmony’s data scientist, over a blog post claiming that e Harmony marriages had a lower divorce rate than other common ways of finding a lifemate.According to e Harmony, matches had the lowest divorce rate compared to couples who met in school, through family, at church, through or at bar. We meet at Frolic Room in Hollywood, with the intention of continuing on to Bardot for School Night. I first walk in the door to find a tall, corn-fed guy sitting somewhat awkwardly amidst the dinge in his lawyer uniform. Apparently a few of the bar's finest had him pegged as a limo driver, so I get to play celebrity client. My initial fears of stilted conversation are immediately vanquished by our impressive list of commonalities: We're both from Nebraska/can chat Pelini, Osborne, and the option for at least a solid few hours. I used to model in NY/lived in the East Village, but now live in Beverly Hills/consume so many pastries. We then realize we're starving and head over to K24 for some late-night grub. I know we are both busy so I didn't want to wait too long to try to make plans again. I was thinking dinner on Friday or the NU game on Saturday (SC has a much needed bye). We were supposed to grab a drink and then go to School Night, but we ended up talking for five hours, never made it to Bardot, and went to K24 at 2am. I don't really think there's any chemistry - at least not on my end - but he's SO nice, so I figure it's worth another roll of the dice. e Harmony Andrew's sister used to model in NY/lived in the East Village, but now lives in Beverly Hills/owns a pastry shop. Unsurprisingly, e Harmony Andrew and I close down the dive bar. Except for the excessive hair-flipping going on over on that side of the table. e HA: I don't mean to be too direct, but I really enjoyed last night. Tonight was my first e Harmony date with a man who is also from NE.