You may yearn for external signs of validation that the relationship is going somewhere besides Breakupville or Nowheresville as though having those signs were signals from the Universe that this relationship was destined for eternity.
I remember a guy I was dating, and I twisted things so that I could meet his children and afterward…nada.
So the question is, if he acts like your boyfriend, takes down his dating profile, calls you daily, texts you daily, spends almost every night with you, says you're exclusive, and is affectionate in public, why won't he call you his girlfriend? Be prepared to leave the relationship if the answer isn't what you want to hear.
It's obvious that you're an important part of his life, or otherwise he'd be out with his drinking buddies instead of holding you in his arms every night. First of all, don't get overemotional about it yet. He likes the friends-with-benefits arrangement and regular sleepovers. If he says you mean the world to him but still doesn't assign a label to your relationship, believe him at his word.
One minute you were fine and the next minute you weren’t.
I propose that sudden flip-flopping derives from a victim-expectation that you’ve given meaning to which becomes a requirement from you for him to satisfy.
It can be awkward when the guy you're dating goes to introduce you to friends or business associates and doesn't know whether to call you're his girlfriend or not. Chances are, he won't even realize there's anything wrong with your relationship.
Instead he'll call you his friend in public, or will tell his friends that he's been hanging out with you, even when he knows and shows you that his feelings are deeper for you. He might have work pressures or other issues on his mind and be completely happy with the way your relationship is heading.
Before you panic and start asking your boyfriend why he hasn’t introduced you to anyone, you need some relationship advice before a bigger problem develops.Or get a relationship coach to hold your hand and drag you out of the fire.But in the regular fare of life, yes, it’s typical (through societal conditioning) to be cool one day with your boyfriend hunk and then suddenly feel panic that he’s not introducing you or inviting you to family or friends.You are looking at the wedding reception napkins and trying to decide if your couple initials will be in gold or silver on your wedding day. And they don’t mean anything without considering the man. Don’t make of his love and how you feel around him.It’s far better not to get caught up in our expectational minds with a flip-flop moment that’s bringing fear and urgency.Somewhere in the history of dating men, a woman decided, certainly without any dating tips, that if her man she’s dating isn’t introducing her to his friends, family, and parents, it meant the worst.It meant that he’s not that into her, he’s not going to commit, he’s using her, he’s up to no good, and she’s wasting her time with him. But it could also mean, in the relationship milestone hurdles, that the lack of introduction to his inner circle is NOT a predictor of a break-up to come. In the vast land of Signs He Wants A Relationship, is being introduced to his closest entourage an absolute predictor to your future as a couple?And those moments could be expecting Valentine’s gifts, or it means he doesn’t love you.Or if he doesn’t introduce you to his parents it means you’re not significant to him.Or if he doesn’t let you meet his friend that means he’s having an affair.Or if he doesn’t stop what he’s doing to meet you to do something, you dramatically assure yourself and him he has ruined your day. You realize that an external socialized marker such as introductions to your bf’s inner circle may not be what society has it cracked up to be.