She and Paul married anyway, and over time the difference in maturity dissipated. While I don't think it's important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.He had graduated from college two months earlier, so we were both in the workforce fulltime.Even though Kevin didn't have as much life experience as I did, our daily lives basically looked the same.Even some 30-something guys I knew didn't seem ready.But as I observed how he interacted with people at church and did his job, my fears were alleviated." While it's fairly common for a woman to marry an older man, the reverse isn't as much of a social norm. Travis and Leah, who have been married close to 20 years, met while attending the same six-week missions organization training."Telling our story never gets old," Leah says, smiling.
Age is just a number." As Kevin and I broached some tough topics in conversation (at the advice of wise counsel), something occurred to me.
"After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.
(For the sake of this article, we'll define an age difference as five years or more.) Here are four things to consider: 1. Leah says one of her biggest concerns when considering a man 10 years younger was whether he had the maturity to understand her needs and take care of her.
If he had still been a "college kid," I might have had a hard time feeling like we were equals.
And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead.