Children age 5 to 10 are more possessive of their mother than older children.
They may feel threatened or resentful at having to share their mothers with new men.
Young children do not notice a difference between cohabitating and marriage.
Ahrons says this may be because they already see their fathers less, leading them to feel more threatened by new relationships.Feature Article Arthur Schneider, Human Development Specialist, Cooper County, University of Missouri Extension According to researcher Constance Ahrons, who completed a 20-year study of children of divorce, about half of all American children will experience a parent’s remarriage before they reach age 18. Census Bureau, have only recently begun to recognize this trend.Ahrons found that parent dating and remarriage has a significant impact on children. Ahrons suggests that this lag, which results in institutions considering only one type of family as normal, makes other forms seem deviant.A father’s attention to another woman is often seen as an insult to the children, especially when that woman is believed to have caused the divorce.Ahrons found that most children prefer not to be involved in their fathers’ dating lives.What to know after remarriage It is important to spend time alone with your biological children rather than always having the new stepparent present.Children also like to have a special place to keep their things in your new home. A common mistake is trying to form a new family too quickly.Many will challenge authority at every opportunity, and the more a stepparent or new partner tries to serve as a parent, the more resistant children will be.Ahrons says it is best for the new parent figure to serve as a friend rather than an authority figure.Ahrons found that the children she studied had five views of stepfathers: Stepmothers typically do not live with their stepchildren.Ahrons says only 8 percent of all stepmothers live with their stepchildren.