“Part of me wants to say that dating should be just for fun,” she admits, “but it’s no fun when one person is taking it seriously and the other isn’t.” You’re How Old?
▪ At what age do you think it is appropriate for a youth to start dating?
That is what a young Christian named Sondra has decided to do, even though she is already of legal age to marry. Or is it because of some undesirable trait on your part?
Sondra reasons: “In the dating process you want someone else to get to know you. If you cannot responsibly handle your own finances, how will you do so for a family? ▪ Spirituality If you are one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, what are your spiritual attributes?
“The desire to have a girlfriend gets stronger every day, and it is so hard to deal with! Whether in a group or in private, whether on the phone or in person, whether in the open or in secret, if you and a friend of the opposite sex have a special romantic understanding, it’s dating. A consideration of three questions will help you to find out. In many cultures dating is regarded as a legitimate way for two people to become better acquainted.
(1 Corinthians ) To maintain close association with one particular member of the opposite sex while you are still in “the bloom of youth” can fan the flames of desire and cause you to learn the hard way the wisdom of Galatians 6:7: “Whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap.” Granted, some of your peers might date without any intention of marriage.
But if you don’t know yourself, how can you expect someone else to figure you out? She says: “Thinking back to two years ago, what I would have looked for in a potential mate was so different from what I would look for now. Do you take the initiative to read God’s Word, to engage in the ministry, and to participate at Christian meetings?
Basically, even at this point I don’t trust myself to make such a decision. If you are not maintaining your own spirituality, how will you encourage a mate to do so? These are just a few things you need to consider if you are thinking about dating and marriage.
[Box/Pictures on page 28] What Some of Your Peers Say “I sometimes feel jealous of dating couples—even married couples. “I don’t think that you should date boys just as a ‘rehearsal’ for when someone you really like comes along.
That would just lead to hurt feelings.”—Chelsea, 17.