With huge advances in technology creating all manner of age-defying treatments; better diets; dental care; and life expectancy, it’s entirely possible to stay looking, and feeling, young well into middle age.
So given all this, do traditional notions of appropriate age gaps in relationships still matter?
While age is truly just a number, successful significant relationships are based on mutual understanding and connection.” She continued, “I’ve seen a few anomalies where a large age gap didn’t get in the way of a lasting connection, but often times, it can lead to frustrations and the end of a relationship.
“Rules are made to be broken in certain cases, but it’s not a bad start to set some parameters.” However, how much can we really rely on a rule written from the perspective of an early 20th-century male?
While some beliefs may stand the test of time, this old-fashioned dating rule doesn’t appear to be one of them.
Whether you’d never date a younger man or are considering dating an older women – or vice versa – everyone is sure to have an opinion.
Based on this system, someone who’s 60 would have a 12 year margin, so the age range would be 48 to 72.
This can seem quite restrictive but is a good way of judging whether the age range that you’re dating in will widely be deemed appropriate.
She said, “one reason why this may have endured is because men are generally more attracted to younger women and would like a rule that makes them feel it is acceptable to date younger.” So basically men are to blame.
The original quote, taken from Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty Cupid, is as follows: “I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly: A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven.
Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.” Diminishing his credibility, in the next paragraph, O’Rell gives readers the advice: “Never marry a woman richer than you, or one taller than you, or one older than you.” So despite the approval and support from De Alto, the rule originally repeated by O’Rell seems significantly outdated – in real life, but especially in the anything-goes world of celebrity dating.
It turns out to be relatively well established, dating back more than 100 years to a book by Max O’Rell written in 1901, and the 1951 play The Moon is Blue.
But does it stand up to scrutiny, or is it just a baseless rule perpetuated by men who want to justify dating younger, and less mature, women?