Send Surreptitious Flirty Text Messages to Each Other You're crazy about each other, but aren't allowed to openly express it when you're at work together: clearly, this is the recipe for some insane sexual tension.
But communicating via company email system is dicey, and any email you open on your computer screen can be too easily read by a co-worker.
It’s petty I know, but is there any thing I can do? Was your coworker malicious or just gossiping in order to make listeners think he was privy to juicy personal information?
Signed, Dear It Makes Me Look Bad: Probably there is little you can do unless your coworker has spread false information that seriously damages your reputation and/or costs you a loss, such as saying you committed a crime that you didn’t or that you had a sexually transmitted disease that you did not. You don’t say how you know this particular individual knew of and disclosed personal information about you that could make you look bad, nor do you say how you’ve handled it so far.
Like that's going to stop anybody from doing it. For as long as there have been workplaces, there have been people surreptitiously hooking up at them.
If you're considering hooking up with someone you work with (even if "considering" = creepily staring at from across the room, completely unbeknownst to that person), I strongly advise you read these tips first.
And most importantly, it could motivate you to refocus from what others think of you to what really matters to your work organization; such as it being a responsible community corporate citizen and a company that is profitable.
This unhappy incidence could be a learning experience for you: It could make you more cautious about your own behavior that could make you unhappy to have it disclosed. It could raise your consciousness of how important it is to not say something that might cause an individual to lose face.
When I polled my friends on Facebook and Twitter for advice on dating a coworker, the overwhelming majority of the responses were simply, "Don't." It seems like everyone has a cautionary tale of a relationship in a workplace that went terribly, terribly wrong.
Dating a coworker or boss or colleague can lead to unbearable awkwardness, a tarnished professional reputation, and even job-loss.
He’s embellished some details to make me appear bad and less of a human being.
It’s one thing if I were to put out this info but I’m not and now other coworkers see me in a lesser light than what I should be seen.