He sets up Disqus profiles using my picture and pairing it with very smart usernames like “fart sniffer” so he can leave comments on my blog to let me know what a sad, fat, lonely woman I am, ensuring he mentions my cat - because we all know what cats mean to women in their mid 30s.
Every morning I wake up to a slew of emails about my recent password reset requests and text messages with verification codes.
“It’s starting with a test group and will soon be rolled out to everyone on Ok Cupid, so all users will need to update their profiles with their real names.
We know, this is tough to hear — especially for Staying Pawwsitive, Dootdootledootd0 and Britney__Tears.
I know he really loves this post I wrote, so thought I would bring it back up to the top, for all to enjoy.
more and more people (including myself) seem to be shunning okc and and all that other online dating crap.
Rather than letting him know right away, I sit on that and wait until he inevitably texts me again, which happens to be the very next night: Wait, what are you doing here dude? I also use the “still working excuse” to head off any requests to meet that night because it’s on a Wednesday and I’m at home watching “The Girls Tell All” episode of The Bachelor and you are not getting me off this couch for anything, especially for a fool who is trying to pull some weird mind game shit. It’s a shitty thing started by some shitty guys who call themselves ‘pick-up artists.’ More scientifically, negging is a rhetorical strategy whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise insulting remark to another person in order to undermine his or her confidence in a way that gains approval.)So I screenshot the conversation from just one day ago and send it to him and laugh for a second about how sending a picture of a text message in a text message is ridiculous. They also sometimes work on me and I know this, so I try to avoid them at all cost. Continuing to be a jerk to a woman with a blog and balls bigger than yours. He’s made some appointments for me at Jenny Craig and set up a profile for me on Positive (a dating site for those with STDs).
And then things go downhill very quickly: One of my guys from Settl? This is when it becomes very clear to me he is trying to neg me. I did not respond back to Jasonthecoolest, so I suppose this entire post could be considered my response. He has also tried very hard (though unsuccessfully) to hack into my Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Gmail, AT&T, Linked In, OK Cupid, Seeking Arrangement and Miss Travel accounts.
We want you, Big Daddy Flash916, to go by who you are, and not be hidden beneath another layer of mystique.maybe you should just take me out on a date and tell me all about it, hah.i'm a classy dude, i deserve to be picked up with flowers and opened doors once in a while, goddammit.Later that night after mulling over the entire conversation and checking in a bit deeper with myself, I realize I am crazy. It’s been a while since I have dealt with a guy who was so into games.This guy sucks and there’s no way in hell he’s getting one of my two comp tickets to see Bruce Springsteen. ) At this point, I’m seriously WTFing all over my living room trying to figure out this guy’s angle. I’ve been pretty good about filtering those people out because, as you can see, I fucking HATE games. So over a year after this post was written, Jasonthe Coolest still manages to find the time to troll me.But Tinder pulls user data from Facebook, which is a pretty secure “walled garden” of information security, and Facebook pours billions of dollars into securing their data.Standalone dating sites just like Ok Cupid are much more more easily hacked.Even if that mystique is crucial to you and your dating life, unicorn__jizz.”Ok Cupid will only require your first name, not your last name.Of course, Tinder users generally use their real first names as well.To his credit, this is surely what he was hoping would happen. I hate that I do this and I’m working on it but at this very moment, I’m trying to walk the line between keeping it real and keeping him a possibility: I wasn’t actually meeting a friend for dinner that night. Had I been honest, I would have said something along the lines of, “no, I don’t entertain invitations to meet up with someone when they come hours before the desired meet-up because I’m busy and important and goddammit, I like to plan in advance.”ANYWAYThis concludes the first day of this weird ass text exchange.By then end of it, I have confused myself into thinking I am somehow still intrigued enough by this person to think I might actually want to see him this weekend.