“If a person keeps on pressing you for specific information, that’s a big warning sign.”If you’re a single parent, keep those kids a mystery (with the exception of their actual existence).“Your profile will typically say whether or not you have kids, but beyond that, don’t go into details about your children until you’re in an actual relationship,” Snell says.“Also, don’t post pictures of your kids on your profile.”If the conversation rapidly turns intimate or inappropriate, nix the contact just as quickly.“When people want to meet immediately or late at night, that’s a big red flag.And pick shots where you actually look, you know, like yourself.“The last thing I want to do is meet someone and have them say I don’t look like my picture,” Andersen says. Try not to post pictures where’s it’s obvious you’ve cropped out an ex-girlfriend. “And it won’t be in a good way.”Exaggerating or misleading people with your profile will get you nowhere.Honest.“You have to be truthful,” says Andersen, who’s been on sites from to to “I’m not saying you have to tell all your deepest secrets, but you can’t misrepresent yourself.”What’s more, it’s not good enough to just be honest.You have to be authentic.“Be yourself,” Coleman says.“Going online opens up possibilities to meet more people.”Need another perk?The type of crowd online dating attracts is typically older and more successful.“This type of dating usually draws in people of the professional world,” says Snell, who has created a series of dating books and DVDs known as “It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique” (itsyourtechnique.com).
“You can’t be careful enough about this in the beginning.”When it comes to giving out names, keep it short—as in first names only.“Someone with sincere intentions won’t have a problem with that,” Snell says.
Same goes for people who engage in sexual conversations,” Snell says.
“No one who wants a real relationship is going to godown that road.”Steve Carter, 32, couldn’t agree more.“We have to be careful,” says the Utah single, who has dated online for the last two years.
“If it takes too long to get to know you at first glance, people won’t get to know you, period.”When your profile isn’t working, get working on it.“Edit your profile often,” Green says.
“If your introduction isn’t sparking someone’s interest, try expressing yourself in another way.”And if you’ve been online for a while with no real activity, try, try again.“If you’ve had your profile up for more than six months, close it and start a new one,” Snell says.