Taking the time to look within yourself and stop the behaviors or motivations that are making you accept an abusive relationship is the next.
Professional counseling and self-help programs can be a big help when you need to change your expectations of the relationships you are in.
In conclusion, we all need to feel love in our lives.
However, when you are in a relationship, those feelings should subside.If you are in a relationship where it seems that you have no time to yourself, chances are you have a controlling boyfriend. There is no more “girls night out” for you and your friends, unless he is with you. When you do go out, it is to an event that HE chooses.You may not feel like going to a movie, but it is what he wants to do, for example.Putting himself in a “father figure” position will install more of a sense of control.Treating you like a child that went to the mall, prior to doing her homework, is the kind of humiliation in you he is trying to achieve.Not showing you the courtesy to respect your wishes is not a behavior that goes away.This will continue as an abusive relationship, where you will be treated as an object, instead of a person.For some, the fears go away without a second thought. That is the main reason a boyfriend can become a controlling nightmare.It is hard to pinpoint the answer to why this behavior exists, but, if you feel as if you are being controlled, being able to identify the behavior is your first step to freedom.You should always remember to respect yourself, and not be fooled into believing that you are any less of a person than anyone else.Explore your inner feelings and motivations by reading books about avoiding abuse, getting positive reinforcement from healthy living programs and finding a support group.