In Finding the One Online, I give you 7 hours of audio, a 180 page transcript, a 35 page workbook – and tips on everything from choosing the right site, to writing a compelling online dating profile, to taking the right photos, to flirting effectively via email so that every single person will want to meet you in person. What’s the most memorable username you’ve ever seen on a dating site?
I’m quite sure our readers are not going to copy them for their own personal usage. The most memorable (in a good way) were a Blond Moment, Polyglotapus, and Toe_Tap_N.
And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?
Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.
Focus on the less superficial stuff, not how tall or suave or sexy you want your prospect to be.
Then you need to combine that thought with something about who you are. If that advice doesn’t work and you’re still drawing a complete blank, you have three choices: Some sites automatically use the first few words of your essay to generate your tagline. This tagline isn’t horrible, and it won’t injure anyone, but that tagline won’t excite anyone either.
For example, here’s an a tagline that makes you want to read on: Skydiving is the coolest experience on (or off) this planet. Oh here they are.” • “In time, we all become that which we most hate.
That explains how I became a plate of liver and onions.” • “I used to think I was indecisive, but now I’m not too sure.” Remember the game “Telephone” from when you were a kid?
"A handle (or user name) is the name other members of the dating site will use as your "name".My username combines my first name and a nearby street.The street name carries connotations (like Soho in NYC), and it reflects the sort of person I am, the type of interests I have, etc.The sites that allow long taglines don’t always display the entire line in search results.Sometimes only a limited number of letters gets posted on a search.(The entire tagline is visible when your prospect opens your photo and full profile.) Spark.com, for example, uses this system to create a tagline from your essay.Table 1 gives some examples of good taglines gone bad (no, it’s not the name of a new TV reality show) when various dating sites didn’t display the entire tagline in search results.By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky In addition to displaying a screen name, many online-dating sites allow you to display a phrase, called a tagline.Some sites, such as Match.com, let you choose a long screen name and a long tagline.Do a search on your site to see which is more prominent — taglines or screen names. Likewise, in the world of online dating, your goal is to present yourself in a way that tends to attract the right kind of person, not every available prospect.The obvious first step is to think about the kind of match you want.