The happiness of marriage is not only or even mainly physical.
With the sex, there ought to be a deep sense of safety, a sense of being loved and accepted for who you are, a desire to please without the need to impress.
A wife ought to help and submit to her man (Genesis ; Ephesians –24).
Fathers ought to lead their families in God’s word (Ephesians 6:4).
Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a lifelong partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and snaps, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.
Those who recklessly give themselves to a love life of dating without really dating, of romantic rendezvouses without Christ and commitment, are settling. With this “more,” we can say to the watching world, Don’t settle for artificial and thin loyalty, affection, security, and sexual experimentation when God intends and promises so much more through a Christian union.
There is a reason the Bible doesn’t have a book devoted to how to choose a spouse.
It was not an oversight on the part of the God of all history, as if he couldn’t see into the twenty-first century.
It’s not nearly a comprehensive or exhaustive list.
They’re simply lessons I’ve learned and hope can be a blessing for you, your boyfriend or girlfriend, and your future spouse.