Even if the sex isn’t “mind-blowing,” amazing, pornographic sex on your wedding night, that doesn’t mean it’s bad sex.
And it doesn’t mean it will be exactly the same forever, either.
We’re so thankful for being able to share this story!
But we do realize that no two women (and therefore no two couples) are exactly alike.
Even without having an orgasm, it was still an amazing experience – finally being with someone who valued me.You don’t need to be experienced to have a healthy sex life once you’re married.You need a person who values you, desires you, and makes you feel safe. So much so that they are willing to do whatever it takes to make sex the best experience for you too.My mistake was in not telling him how I felt – and this applies to everyone – regardless of their experiences before marriage, or lack thereof. It made him more willing to learn and try different things to help me.And, I think it made him feel less insulted when things weren’t going quite the way he planned. It’s experience with , because we’re all different.For example, just because someone you slept with previously likes something, it absolutely doesn’t mean you’ll be “good at sex” for the person you marry.Pleasure comes in the trust and safety of the relationship, the emotional connection, and with learning their body. The two main things I think need to be highlighted here are COMMUNICATION and HUMILITY.Did his lack of know-how affect in any way your pleasure, or how you felt about the experience?Editor: It worries me that we reference past sexual experience as “power”, implying that a lack of sexual experience removes someone from a position of power in the relationship.I met my husband about 2 weeks after I had broken up with my boyfriend, and after “talking” with my now-husband for about a week he told me that he was a virgin. Not only that, but he wasn’t interested in having sex before marriage.When the day finally came that we said ‘I do,’ all I was thinking about is how nervous I was that sex was going to be bad. My wedding night was more than I could have ever hoped for.