If we end up dating, will either one of us be settling? How will you react if I keep my guard up with you (for a little while, at least)? There aren’t hard and fast rules about what’s a good vs. Research has shown that the most effective communication style in relationships is a flexible one. Why: This is primarily relevant if you're either an extreme night or an extreme morning person. The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder?
Alice's Twitter @Dr Alice Boyes photo credits: Pink Sherbet Photography, Www. On a first date go for a friendly tone rather than an intimate tone when asking this question. Don’t be afraid to change plans if you arrive at a restaurant and find it’s too noisy for a good conversation. Why: This shows you're considerate of other people's comfort. Why: If they still live with their Mom or they live with 10 roommates, this tells you something about how they like to live. This might not be important to you, but it might be. Why: The main point here is not to jump to assumptions about your date's politics. Why: If your date is exploring a relationship with someone else you might want to push pause at the end of your first date but offer them the opportunity to get back in touch with you if the other relationship doesn’t work out. Especially in the age of internet dating, people sometimes meet multiple people they’re interested in around the same time. Why: This will tell you about your date’s preferences and also if they're someone who tends to reflect on experiences and can talk about their thoughts. Why: Tells you something about whether they seek out new experiences. What are your thoughts about the upcoming election (any upcoming election)? How frequently do you check your ex's social media accounts? Is it out of the ordinary for them to like your Facebook statuses and vice versa? Tell me everything about your drinking and drug habits.55. If so, what do you think about pre-nuptial agreements? Do you plan on having kids, or do you want a life without any? Are you thinking about making any major residential moves in the next few years? Do you always need to be right about everything (and let people *know* you think you're right)? What's your weirdest and/or darkest sexual fantasy? What have other people you've dated liked the most about you? What have other people you've dated complained about the most? Have you ever struggled with any mental health issues? How do you honestly feel about dating someone who has mental health issues of their own? Why did you break up with your last significant other? Why did your last significant other break up with you?