The final thing on my mind is that you don’t have to stick it out in relationships where your girlfriend expects this sort of thing from you if you really don’t like it.
You especially don’t have to stick it out if she starts nagging you about it. There are many different women in this world and a fair number of them are not into having their man take the lead in the bedroom. If necessary, find yourself a different woman with whom your interaction is more compatible.
It’s a sort of game you play with your partner and when it works (when both of you are playing the same game) it can be fun.
When it doesn’t work (when you are playing one game and she is playing another) it can be a setup for heart ache.
This conflicts with their fantasy and they don’t like it as much.
Not all women are like this, but a substantial amount are. Playing the ‘seducer’ is a role – it doesn’t have to define you, and you can put it on and off like a suite of clothing.
I feel like I have to become an asshole in order to keep a girlfriend. I feel like there is no hope because wemen seem to expect the guy to make the moves which is understandable to a degree as far as first dates go but on personal levels I feel things should be mutual. It means that they want to be dating assertive men not aggressive men or passive men.
I am comfortable with the idea of being without love but I need to know if I should change, I should find more emotionally stable wemen, or just settle into a nice calm life of me and my friends. By asking your girlfriends if they are interested in having sex with you rather than assertively coming on to them, you are perhaps being perceived as a passive man, and they are perhaps viewing you as forcing them to take on a more assertive role than they want to take on.
However, I thought I was being nice to her (for the first time a guy that didn’t controll her or try to just have his way with her).
If you’re not up for reading about that today, you should take a pass.
But we think we’d be remiss not to include the dark and very real amongst the wacky and bizarre.
When I call this game playing, I don’t mean that anyone is hiding behind anything here – it’s not a manipulative thing or a way to hide – it’s rather a sort of channel through which some women are able to accept sexual love without feeling guilty.
The presence of this sort of psychosexual game may not indicate the pinacle of ideal maturity, but then again, there is no need to scorn the process of this sort of sexual game playing either. You also have to take into account your own lack of comfort with the whole being sexual thing.