In fact, as someone who quit drinking a long time ago, my own "rule" when dating was not to date a formerly addicted person unless that person had been comfortably abstinent for at least five years.Someone's gotta be the first to say it, so I guess it might as well be me: AA doesn't have a rule about dating.Give yourself a break, concentrate on your recovery, then see if you are ready to 'date.' J M H O Love and hugs, __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you are trudgin thru alligators up to your butt) Sobriety: AA June 7, 1981 Codependency: Alanon June 7, 1984 I will agree...You apparently don't know this, but AA has No Rules. The big book actually advocates having a well rounded life.
I tend to think you're also shortchanging yourself and not giving yourself time to heal. Likewise, I would strongly advise most any normie to not take up with someone who is less than a few years sober.
If you're feeling good and confident in yourself and you think you're ready then go for it.
One thing I'll say is that be ready for some emotions you haven't felt in a while sober.
There are other options that are much better: -friend that knows about your situation -family member -therapist -AA/NA or other support groups -posting on SR -volunteering -professional relationships with co-workers Now I have not heard of this "no dating for a year" rule before so I don't have anything to say about who invented it or whether it is truly part of AA or not.
I think there is some wisdom to this rule/suggestion no matter where it came from, but I would not take the "one year" part literally, that's just my opinion.